Four years ago today, at 2:12pm, I held my wife Renee’s hand, kissed her, and said goodbye as she left this earth to be with Christ. Over the past four years, I’ve learned a few things about life on the way to today. One of which is that love is still out there if you care to find it. I’m glad I kept searching.
Here’s some, if not most of what I’ve learned about life over the past 4 years.
1. Life is a chapter book.
2. Each year has its own chapter of follies and funnies that took place in that chapter.
3. When you close the previous chapter, it doesn’t mean that you are forgetting what took place in that chapter, but building on what took place in your new chapter in order to enhance your hero, make someone better or more complete.
4. Memories are those times when you know you’ve read something, and are flipping through the pages of the previous chapters to find it.
5. Happiness comes when you know EXACTLY where to find that one special moment. That one that took your breath away when it happened.
6. Writing a new chapter is hard. All you know and have learned are contained in the previous chapters. This makes writing a new one difficult but not impossible.
My point is that while we figure out our new storylines, don’t forget where your main character has been and what they’ve done. It’s those memories that can help your character navigate his/her way through the new storyline, and create a tale as beautiful as you make it. But don’t linger too long, because it can be detrimental to your storyline and your new chapter.
My advice: take the time you need to develop your new chapter. There is no rush. Some will tell you to “get back on that horse, and get out there”. That advice may work for them. But maybe not for you. So take the time to think it through, and when you’re ready to start your next chapter, let your heart be your guide. Anyway, these are the things I’ve learned over the past few years. Thank you to everyone for your love and help over the years as we pause to remember a beautiful lady who loved us and continues to inspire us along the way.
I’m honored and fortunate to have met Greg as he searched for meaning after loss. He stumbled upon Grief Inspired and his story touched me. We all need to share our stories and have our voices heard. What is so special is that Greg, like myself, is compelled to want to help others with what he’s learned. He has hope, and he is on the search for happiness. If you seek hope, want help along the way, and want to find happiness, you, my friend, are in the right place.
Founder of Grief Inspired