If you’ve recently lost someone close to you, you know first-hand how challenging grief can be. It can be cruel how life moves on while our pain takes over and persists for what can seem like an eternity. We may pause for a week or a month to catch our breath from the initial experience of loss but inevitably we find a way to pick ourselves up and move through our day with the weight of grief still hanging heavy upon our shoulders.
Personally, I kept hoping that if I just kept moving forward, the pain of my grief would somehow dissolve and disappear. I spent a good two years waiting to feel “normal” again and although the pain of my loss became familiar, it didn’t get easier. I didn’t know it at the time, but I was stuck in my grief.
Grief had become an integral part of my life. In time, I realized that the misery of grief became the most prevalent part of my life. True happiness and joy were no longer part of the equation. It’s sad but true.
In time, I wanted to free myself from the chains of grief. I had lost control of my life and it felt like grief was winning. I didn’t know what to do but I knew I had to do something.
As a self-proclaimed control freak, the out of control experience of loss became too much. I needed to understand how to grieve, how to move forward, and how to regain the control I’d lost.
I needed something to do, I wanted to be in action, and I wanted to know
that I was making progress in my grief.
It sounds simple enough, but if you are grieving, you know it isn’t always that easy.
In creating Grief INSPIRED, I want to lighten the load you carry a bit and provide you with tools to help ease the pain of loss. The grief experience can be complex and shouldn’t be dismissed. I want to encourage you to use the tools as a guide to help you move through grief and keep from getting stuck. As you work through the tools, you will uncover moments when the weight of grief is a little lighter and be inspired to keep on living. We will focus on how to capture this inspiration and make it work for you. We will share what has worked and what didn’t work and grow in grief together as a community.
I’ll begin with my favorite tool. It is a process called Morning Pages, created by Julia Cameron, to help artists and creatives get unstuck and tap into their creative spirit. The process is simple and powerful and definitely worth a try
To begin with morning pages, all you need is some lined paper and a pen. Before you go to sleep at night, put the paper and pen close to your bed, so you can grab it as soon as you wake up. Upon wakening, pick up the pen and start writing everything that goes through your mind. Don’t stop writing no matter what comes up. Move the information in your head to the paper without judging or correcting. Complete 2-3 pages and then stop. Ask yourself what you’ve learned.
This stream of consciousness writing serves as a way to clear your head and prioritize your day. It helps you understand what is on the forefront of your mind and frees you to process your grief. After completing Morning Pages, I always feel lighter, clearer, and a little more at peace.
I’d like to encourage you to give it a try for a week and see how it works for you. Some swear by it and couldn’t imagine going a day without it. Others use it only at specific times, for example, when life’s events seem to burden their hearts and minds.
For additional information on Morning pages click here. https://juliacameronlive.com/basic-tools